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Don’t F*kn Shrink
You know that voice in your head that whispers “play it safe, stay small, don’t rock the boat”?
Yeah… we’re not listening to that here.
Welcome to Don’t F*kn Shrink, the podcast for high achievers, entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to stop holding back, build unshakable confidence, and show up fully in their lives.
I’m Daffney Allwein, performance coach, athlete, and unapologetic believer that you were never meant to shrink yourself to fit. For nearly two decades, I’ve helped elite performers, from pro athletes to top-level executives, rebuild their bodies, strengthen their mindset, and rise higher than they thought possible.
On this show, you’ll get:
- Unfiltered conversations with people who’ve faced setbacks, reinvented themselves, and refused to quit
- Mindset strategies to push past fear, self-doubt, and perfectionism
- Performance habits that fuel success without burnout
- Real talk on leadership, resilience, and personal growth, the kind nobody puts in their highlight reel
This isn’t fluff. This isn’t fake inspiration. This is the place to get tools, truth, and a powerful reminder that you were made to take up space.
So if you’re ready to stop shrinking, break through your limits, and create a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside… hit that follow button.
Because the journey starts now.
Don’t F*kn Shrink
16: Deconstructing Faith and Letting Go of Fear with Brian Recker
What happens when staying “acceptable” costs you your integrity? In this episode, Daffney talks with public theologian and bestselling author of Hell Bent, Brian Recker, for an honest conversation about faith, fear, and the moment you stop contorting yourself to belong. Brian unpacks his journey from growing up as a fundamentalist pastor’s kid to walking away from the pulpit when curiosity, conscience, and love could no longer fit inside rigid religious systems. Together, they discuss how fear has been used to control belief, why politics and religion became dangerously intertwined, and what it really takes to choose truth over approval. This episode is for anyone who’s ever swallowed their questions, softened their voice, or stayed silent just to remain palatable.
Connect with Brian Recker:
https://brianrecker.substack.com
IG: https://www.instagram.com/berecker/
In This Episode:
- (01:10) Meet Brian Recker; growing up as a fundamentalist pastor’s kid
- (04:10) The political turning point that changed everything
- (08:40) Fear as the backbone of religious control
- (18:50) Queer affirmation as a line in the sand and the cost of crossing it
- (23:55) Hell as metaphor and how fear-based theology was weaponized
- (30:15) Reclaiming spirituality without fear of punishment
Connect with Daffney:
The Game-Changer Consult → This 60 min deep dive offers you clarity and insight into what’s possible for your next 60 days. Leave this consult feeling full of possibility and with the energy of purpose!