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Don’t F*kn Shrink
You know that voice in your head that whispers “play it safe, stay small, don’t rock the boat”?
Yeah… we’re not listening to that here.
Welcome to Don’t F*kn Shrink, the podcast for high achievers, entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to stop holding back, build unshakable confidence, and show up fully in their lives.
I’m Daffney Allwein, performance coach, athlete, and unapologetic believer that you were never meant to shrink yourself to fit. For nearly two decades, I’ve helped elite performers, from pro athletes to top-level executives, rebuild their bodies, strengthen their mindset, and rise higher than they thought possible.
On this show, you’ll get:
- Unfiltered conversations with people who’ve faced setbacks, reinvented themselves, and refused to quit
- Mindset strategies to push past fear, self-doubt, and perfectionism
- Performance habits that fuel success without burnout
- Real talk on leadership, resilience, and personal growth, the kind nobody puts in their highlight reel
This isn’t fluff. This isn’t fake inspiration. This is the place to get tools, truth, and a powerful reminder that you were made to take up space.
So if you’re ready to stop shrinking, break through your limits, and create a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside… hit that follow button.
Because the journey starts now.
Don’t F*kn Shrink
14: Growing Up on I Am Jazz and Becoming an Ally to All with Sander Jennings
What does real allyship, leadership, and courage look like today?
It’s not a repost, a slogan, or a perfectly curated statement. It’s choosing to show up even when it’s uncomfortable, unpopular, or wildly misunderstood. Known to many from TLC’s I Am Jazz, Sander Jennings shares what it was really like growing up in a family that stood publicly for trans rights long before society was ready to listen. He opens up about the mindset shifts that took him from quiet supporter to confident advocate, the pressure men face inside the toxic “manosphere,” and why empathy and emotional intelligence are now non negotiable for anyone who wants to influence with integrity. From navigating frat culture to finding his voice online to reshaping his digital marketing career around elevating nonprofits, Sander’s story is a masterclass in showing up bigger than your fear. If you're committed to leading with your values, using your voice for good, and staying grounded in a polarized world, this episode will challenge you, empower you, and remind you exactly why your voice matters.
About Sander Jennings:
A former TV family figure from TLC’s I Am Jazz, Sander is stepping into a renewed purpose as the body-loving big brother the world needs. While continuing to champion LGBTQ+ rights, he is also creating space for everyone—regardless of identity—to practice gratitude, self-acceptance, and love for the one body we each get.
In This Episode:
- (01:10) Meet Sander Jennings: activist, big brother, and digital creator
- (03:45) The truth behind his family’s reality TV journey
- (08:00) Understanding the “manosphere” and the pressures men face today
- (12:00) How he built a platform rooted in truth, empathy, and advocacy
- (17:20) Becoming the “Internet’s Big Brother”
- (19:10) How nonprofits shifted his purpose and business
- (26:15) Respect as the foundation of love
Connect with Daffney:
The Game-Changer Consult → This 60 min deep dive offers you clarity and insight into what’s possible for your next 60 days. Leave this consult feeling full of possibility and with the energy of purpose!